On relationship - off again relationships:

 

This is the most complicated kind of relationship, it seems unstable for both parties, even more so if you as a couple and a team haven’t worked through the issues, that was the reason for the break up in the first place and if these isnt dealt with, it will most likely lead to a new break, leaving both parties utterly heartbroken.
 
Most couple will try for another round and but for most cases, the dynamic of these relationships have been set, by the past, the past mistakes and what was the reason for the break up in the first place; these experincing that we have with eachother they linger on and they become a vital of the story, not only the story we tell our partner but also the story we tell ourself.
 
For whatever reason there is for the break up, its important to pay attention and accept that the old relationship is gone and there is a specific reason for that, something didn’t work and something became unhealthy.
 
 

Changing the dynamic:

 

This process takes time, it takes work.
 
First and foremost, you have to acknowledge the flaws within yourself and then your person. Find out where it went south, look inward as well and figure out what didnt work for you as a person.
 
Some dynamics are simply not healthy; this can be codependency, overly giver and undergiver as well.
 
This aspect is about changing the dynamic that simply didn’t work out for your relationship. Also important to know that you cant change your person or she/his behavior, you can and is only responsible for your own behavior.
 
 

Can it ever work:

 

Yes it can definetly work.
 
But it also require that you put in some changes, not only word of changes but proof of these changes. If the love still is there, the trust is still there and both parties have acknowledge their past mistakes and is willing to change those, a reconcillation is possible, but it still take work from both sides, to make this dream a reality.
 
 

Should we try again and is it worth it:

 

This is million dollar question, but simply put, if you both still have faith in your relationship and the relationship wasnt toxic, its worth a try.
 
Most relationships fall apart because one of the people stopped talking to their person.
 
But if you want your ex back, simple because you got broken up with and your ego have been touched and your reason for a reconcillation is to get a ego boost, i can’t advice taking this route.
 
A reconcillation is a beautiful event and is meant to build on two people saying”i still love you and i still see a future with you and i want to give our relationship another go”.
 
A reconcillation is a two way street and it wont work, if you dont give it your all or if its something half hearted.
 
 

When to call it quits?

 

If neither of you have learned from the break up, if you dont see a future with your ex or if you have tried many times to reconcille with eachother and no matter what, it simply doesnt work out.
 

• sometimes we also have to accept the fact, that love is not everything and if the very foundation to the relationship in itself have broken down to pieces, its important to first build that foundation up again before even trying to reconcille.